Intimacy: It's a Skill

Finding that sweet spot of intimacy is a brain skill. Our new six-week program, one hour per week for singles or couples, is essential training for those who want to deepen their love, even though life can be challenging!

Having been through divorce myself and now happily coupled, I am committed to making these simple, powerful tools available. This is not relationship therapy or couples counseling. It's about how the brain works, and simple tools and exercises to make it far easier to find love, and deepen it.

They are universal tools, fun to use, and help us more quickly dig out of those inevitable stressed states, so our partner looks . . . pretty cute. Take tonight for instance. Walt and I were in completely different brain states, with different stress loads in our brains. I'm in the middle of dealing with some significant physical pain, processing a series of three huge family events (that are complicated), preparing to deliver a major talk, and processing the pain of the passing of a cherished friend. There is really no need to give reasons for my stress, as the brain does what it does!

I'm stressed, but Walt is on a well-deserved natural high. He's a person that is all about nature, and he just went on a bike ride and is soaking in the beauty of nature in summer. Today he connected with both his kids, and as he just went to his college reunion and reunited with an old friend, he is in his glow.

I am at FIVE and he is at ONE.

Perfect!

This was a setup for us to merge or distance, deadening our passion and fun. We don't go down that road. We use brain-based health, and it's pretty easy. We used the relationship reset tools of EBT, and this evening, we are both happier.

I asked Walt, "How do people live without these tools?"

He said, "They may not."

Consider using EBT. Start with trying out the tools, and if you love them as much as most people do, think about taking our Brain Based Skills for Relationships course. Whether you learn the tools solo or as a couple, they give you simple insights into how to stop judging a partner, set effective limits with them, recharge your sexual passion, and start having – a lot – of fun together.

More groups will start soon. For information and upcoming start dates, please contact Michael@ebt.org.